Well, fun for most kids, anyway.
For Kojiq, Hari Raya is just another day. For Kojiq's mom, Hari Raya Jalan-Jalan is a test on her patience and perseverance.
Kojiq is at that time when his current game is playing with electrical switches - light, fan, air-cond etc. He's tall enough to reach the switches, light enough to be running around at a speed that is difficult for us to catch him, yet heavy enough that when he's showing defiance by sitting or lying down, it is difficult to carry him or pull him to his feet. Imagine the chaotic madness when we go Jalan-Jalan to our relatives' homes!
Sure, the easy way to counter the 'shame' of having your child misbehave at someone else's home is always to punish the child immediately. A slap on the butt, a pinch on the arm, even pulling his ears, will make the child stop his actions for a short while.
But does he understand that all this anger and pain inflicted on him is a result of his 'misbehaviour'? Should he be physically reprimanded in public just so you can 'save face'?
If the child fully understands the consequences of his actions, like a normal child, he would stop misbehaving on his own accord, kan?
Think about it, before you start thrashing your special needs child.
Oh, for the record, Kojiq's mom didn't slap him, but she was finding it hard to hold on to her patience.
2 comments:
I do empathise with Kojiq's Mom but at the same time I do salute her for her patience that wears thin at times, but most of the time, intact.
Autism, like any other special ability, needs a lot of patience and understanding. It is hard enough to cope with the child, even tougher to cope with society's expectation and demanded norms.
May they be strong and capable always to deal with these special abilities.
Berat mata memandang, berat lagi bahu memikul
CB
Salam Count,
Thank you for your kind words and support. Yes, handling a child with autism can even sometimes challenge your sanity, what more patience.
I am just glad that in Kojiq's situation, his extended family (grandparents, aunt-me!, uncle) are always around to help out, because we all live in the same home.
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